Call me an experienced dater. I've been single again since 2004. I was with my ex-husband for 6 years. I was his second wife. If his first wife and I were to write a brief paragraph about why we tossed that fish back into the sea I'll bet our reasons would be identical. If fact, after just one date I can tell you why each man I've dated over the last four years got divorced.
Forever the journalist, I always ask a man why his marriage broke up. It is interesting to hear what they have to say. I doubt the reasons they give me match those that their ex has given to her friends and family. It doesn't matter, because generally it only takes a date or two to figure out why a man over 35 is single.
This just might be the rant of a chick in a dating rut, but it sure looks like the men in my age range are single for a reason, a really BIG reason. His ex didn't kick him to the curb because he drank a little too much. He wasn't a little too controlling. He wasn't a little too self-centered, a little too bi-sexual, a little too lazy, a little too angry, a little too irresponsible with money or a little too flirty with other women. We're not talking about the guy who was a little too into porn. Oops! Am I getting a little too graphic? Most marriages can overcome little character flaws. No one is perfect. Its the big singing-at-the-top-of-your-lungs issues that motivate a woman to take off her wedding ring.
My friend, Pete, believes that I'll fall for a guy who feels the same way I do. As I type, this fictional love interest is sympathizing with the ex-husbands of the women he's been dating. Nice fairytale, Pete. We'll see. Until that guy comes along I'll remain a fan of the first wives club.
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